target: Fix LUN_RESET active I/O handling for ACK_KREF

This patch fixes a NULL pointer se_cmd->cmd_kref < 0
refcount bug during TMR LUN_RESET with active se_cmd
I/O, that can be triggered during se_cmd descriptor
shutdown + release via core_tmr_drain_state_list() code.

To address this bug, add common __target_check_io_state()
helper for ABORT_TASK + LUN_RESET w/ CMD_T_COMPLETE
checking, and set CMD_T_ABORTED + obtain ->cmd_kref for
both cases ahead of last target_put_sess_cmd() after
TFO->aborted_task() -> transport_cmd_finish_abort()
callback has completed.

It also introduces SCF_ACK_KREF to determine when
transport_cmd_finish_abort() needs to drop the second
extra reference, ahead of calling target_put_sess_cmd()
for the final kref_put(&se_cmd->cmd_kref).

It also updates transport_cmd_check_stop() to avoid
holding se_cmd->t_state_lock while dropping se_cmd
device state via target_remove_from_state_list(), now
that core_tmr_drain_state_list() is holding the
se_device lock while checking se_cmd state from
within TMR logic.

Finally, move transport_put_cmd() release of SGL +
TMR + extended CDB memory into target_free_cmd_mem()
in order to avoid potential resource leaks in TMR
ABORT_TASK + LUN_RESET code-paths.  Also update
target_release_cmd_kref() accordingly.

Reviewed-by: Quinn Tran <quinn.tran@qlogic.com>
Cc: Himanshu Madhani <himanshu.madhani@qlogic.com>
Cc: Sagi Grimberg <sagig@mellanox.com>
Cc: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Cc: Hannes Reinecke <hare@suse.de>
Cc: Andy Grover <agrover@redhat.com>
Cc: Mike Christie <mchristi@redhat.com>
Cc: stable@vger.kernel.org # 3.10+
Signed-off-by: Nicholas Bellinger <nab@linux-iscsi.org>