md-cluster: transfer the resync ownership to another node

When node A stops an array while the array is doing a resync, we need
to let another node B take over the resync task.

To achieve the goal, we need the A send an explicit BITMAP_NEEDS_SYNC
message to the cluster. And the node B which received that message will
invoke __recover_slot to do resync.

Reviewed-by: Goldwyn Rodrigues <rgoldwyn@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: Guoqing Jiang <gqjiang@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: NeilBrown <neilb@suse.com>