nfsd4: acquire only one lease per file

Instead of acquiring one lease each time another client opens a file,
nfsd can acquire just one lease to represent all of them, and reference
count it to determine when to release it.

This fixes a regression introduced by
c45821d2 "locks: eliminate fl_mylease
callback": after that patch, only the struct file * is used to determine
who owns a given lease.  But since we recently converted the server to
share a single struct file per open, if we acquire multiple leases on
the same file from nfsd, it then becomes impossible on unlocking a lease
to determine which of those leases (all of whom share the same struct
file *) we meant to remove.

Thanks to Takashi Iwai <tiwai@suse.de> for catching a bug in a previous
version of this patch.

Tested-by: Takashi Iwai <tiwai@suse.de>
Signed-off-by: J. Bruce Fields <bfields@redhat.com>