IB/mlx4: Configure extended active speeds

Set the extended active speeds based on the hardware configuration.

Signed-off-by: Marcel Apfelbaum <marcela@dev.mellanox.co.il>
Reviewed-by: Hal Rosenstock <hal@mellanox.com>

[ Move FDR-10 handling into ib_link_query_port().  - Roland ]

Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <roland@purestorage.com>