Don't unconditionally set in_sync on newly added device in raid5_reshape

When a reshape finds that it can add spare devices into the array,
those devices might already be 'in_sync' if they are beyond the old
size of the array, or they might not if they are within the array.

The first case happens when we change an N-drive RAID5 to an
N+1-drive RAID5.
The second happens when we convert an N-drive RAID5 to an
N+1-drive RAID6.

So set the flag more carefully.
Also, ->recovery_offset is only meaningful when the flag is clear,
so only set it in that case.

This change needs the preceding two to ensure that the non-in_sync
device doesn't get evicted from the array when it is stopped, in the
case where v0.90 metadata is used.

Signed-off-by: NeilBrown <neilb@suse.de>