vfio: grab vfio_device reference *before* exposing the sucker via fd_install()

It's not critical (anymore) since another thread closing the file will block
on ->device_lock before it gets to dropping the final reference, but it's
definitely cleaner that way...

Acked-by: Alex Williamson <alex.williamson@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Al Viro <viro@zeniv.linux.org.uk>