kbuild: asm symlink support for arch/$ARCH/include

Adjust the asm symlink support so we do not create the
symlink unless really needed.
We check the precense of include/asm-$ARCH by checking
for the system.h file. We may end up with a stale directory
so it is not enough to check if the directory is present.

Signed-off-by: Sam Ravnborg <sam@ravnborg.org>