md: allow v0.91 metadata to record devices as being active but not in-sync.

This is a combination that didn't really make sense before.
However when a reshape is converting e.g. raid5 -> raid6, the extra
device is not fully in-sync, but is certainly active and contains
important data.
So allow that start to be meaningful and in particular get
the 'recovery_offset' value (which is needed for any non-in-sync
active device) from the reshape_position.

Signed-off-by: NeilBrown <neilb@suse.de>