vfio: powerpc/spapr: Rework groups attaching

This is to make extended ownership and multiple groups support patches
simpler for review.

This should cause no behavioural change.

Signed-off-by: Alexey Kardashevskiy <aik@ozlabs.ru>
[aw: for the vfio related changes]
Acked-by: Alex Williamson <alex.williamson@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: David Gibson <david@gibson.dropbear.id.au>
Reviewed-by: Gavin Shan <gwshan@linux.vnet.ibm.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael Ellerman <mpe@ellerman.id.au>