Close race condition in binderDied()

It was possible for a binderDied() call to occur while the death
recipient list containing the object was being iterated, in which
case we could invalidate an object reference out from under the
iteration, causing a VM abort.  We now interlock the binderDied()
deref operation with the list's locking semantics to prevent this.

Bug 15831054

(cherry picked from commit 090c08ff)

Change-Id: If0027d3ac4da1153284a425dd9b2819a203481ab