fixed a bug where account options where toggled instead of set off. fixed null pointer for missing selfi. made sefli optional

reworked new conversation activity again. less asking more knowing. mucs are now connected on creation of the conversation. no reconnect required

wrote the scariest code ever to fetch srv records from dns. todo use real dns servers and dont hard code 8.8.8.8

first draft on xml parser and communication. a long way to go. code definitly not perfect. will refactor asap