md: destroy partitions and notify udev when md array is stopped.

md arrays are not currently destroyed when they are stopped - they
remain in /sys/block.  Last time I tried this I tripped over locking
too much.

A consequence of this is that udev doesn't remove anything from /dev.
This is rather ugly.

As an interim measure until proper device removal can be achieved,
make sure all partitions are removed using the BLKRRPART ioctl, and
send a KOBJ_CHANGE when an md array is stopped.

Signed-off-by: NeilBrown <neilb@suse.de>