[NETFILTER]: nf_conntrack: automatic helper assignment for expectations

Some helpers (namely H.323) manually assign further helpers to expected
connections. This is not possible with nf_conntrack anymore since we
need to know whether a helper is used at allocation time.

Handle the helper assignment centrally, which allows to perform the
correct allocation and as a nice side effect eliminates the need
for the H.323 helper to fiddle with nf_conntrack_lock.

Mid term the allocation scheme really needs to be redesigned since
we do both the helper and expectation lookup _twice_ for every new
connection.

Signed-off-by: Patrick McHardy <kaber@trash.net>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>