RDMA/nes: Fix double CLOSE event indication crash

During a stress testing in a large cluster, multiple close event are
detected and BUG() is hit in the iWARP core.  The cause is that the
active node gave up while waiting for an MPA response from the peer
and tried to close the connection by sending RST.  The passive node
driver receives the RST but is waiting for MPA response from the user.
When the MPA accept is received, the driver offloads the connection
and sends a CLOSE event.  The driver gets an AE indicating RESET
received and also sends a CLOSE event, hitting a BUG().

Fix this by correcting RESET handling and sending CLOSE events.

Signed-off-by: Faisal Latif <faisal.latif@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <rolandd@cisco.com>