Btrfs: Fix async thread shutdown race

It was possible for an async worker thread to be selected to
receive a new work item, but exit before the work item was
actually placed into that thread's work list.

This commit fixes the race by incrementing the num_pending
counter earlier, and making sure to check the number of pending
work items before a thread exits.

Signed-off-by: Chris Mason <chris.mason@oracle.com>