use 16 byte IVs for http upload files larger than 768KiB

Ever since Android 9+ switched to Conscrypt we can no longer efficiently
encrypt (and decrypt) large files with AES-GCM. We did’t notice this before
because when using 16 byte IVs even modern Androids will fall back to bouncy
castle. However the 'bug'/'feature' in Conscrypt surfaced when we switched over
to 12 byte IVs (which uses Conscrypt on Android 9+)
Switching back entirely to 16 byte IVs is undesirable as this would break
compatibility with Monal. So we end up with a weird compromise where we use
12 byte for normale plain text OMEMO messages and 'small' files where the
inefficiencies aren’t a problem.

The result of this commit is that Monal won’t be able to receive our files
larger than 768KiB. However the alternative is that Conversations would always
OOM when attempting to send larger files (where large depends on the available
RAM.)

fixes #3653